My walk to work varies in time depending on the traffic lights. I live on the other side of a main road to work, and the way the lights are phased, the wait can be 3 or 4 minutes.

So the other day, I spent 3 or 4 minutes staring at a label that was sticking out on a woman's top. It was TAUNTING ME.

I didn't touch it, because we don't interact with strangers on our commute.

Taking responsibility...

I'm really liking the take on responsibility in this video:



Quotes that jump out at me:

All of us in our society have to take responsibility for what we find in front of us

If I see a set of social conditions that have been handed to me, and which not only did wrong by others but elevated me and give me advantage that I did not earn, it's not about beating myself up - I'm not responsible for that having happened, I'm not to blame for it, so guilt is totally unproductive, but, in order to live an ethical life, it seems to me, to live ethically and responsibly, I have to take some responsibility for the unearned advantage.

Via Cynical-C

Comfort Music

Again via LSIBR, I read about the concept of 'comfort music' - not necessarily your favouritest ever albums/songs, but more about the music you cling to when you need familiar and safe and known.

Here are a few of mine..

Ani Difranco - Dilate, and in particular Untouchable Face. This was the first Ani Difranco song I ever heard, and it really sparked something for me. Ani Difranco introduced me to feminism and that it was ok to have opinions and ideas and to say them out loud..

The Whitlams - Eternal Nightcap. Key song on this album is probably Buy Now, Pay Later (Charlie No. 2). I went through quite a long phase of liking melancholy, aching songs, and this one fits that bill quite well.

(At this point I switched to Last.FM to see what else comes up, and I'm quite amused to see that Ani and The Whitlams are numbers 1 and 2 on my artist chart. Surprise!)

Other songs that spring to mind:

Simon and Garfunkel - I am a rock, particularly when feeling a bit down. It's comforting to know I'm not alone.

Me and Bobby McGee - depending on mood, either Janis Joplin or Gordon Lightfoot. They bring quite different feelings to it.

Bob Seger - Turn the Page. So evocative - it's all about the journey.

Looking at that list, I think I need to be more upbeat ;)

I've recently started following Lazy Self-Indulgent Book Reviews on Tumblr. For a lazy reviewer she sure posts a lot of good content!!

One that grabbed me today has nothing to do with books - rather, this YouTube video:



Which then led me to find the original:



And now I'm on a Stevie Nicks YouTube stint. Funny how you get to these places..

My hubby wears Lynx!

I am not in the target demographic of The Breeze radio station. From what I can tell, the people who listen mostly live in the Hutt, are married, and have at least a couple of kids. They're the kind who like to call up to win a prize by guessing what some random magazine's survey said 10,000 people do every week.

Until today, I have had a radio in the bathroom, and I would listen to the fairly inane breakfast radio programme while showering.

This morning the male presenter was asking people to call in and validate the fact that he didn't remember his wife's preferred brand of perfume. Most of the people who called in validated the exact opposite - the men knew what perfurme their wives (always wives, never 'partners') wore, and the women were confident that their husbands could name it. Until the last caller.

This woman stated that her husband only knew it was 'something in a jar'. The radio presenter asked her what her husband wore and she proclaimed that it was lynx. Upon being asked if it was 'Lynx Africa' she squealed and shrilly announced that yes, it was!!

I briefly switched on the radio this afternoon and there was the same shrill woman, validating the radio presenter's lack of memory about his wife's perfurme.

This was some kind of catalyst for me and I turned off the radio at the wall and removed it from the bathroom. I don't want to become part of the demographic that endorses such contentless ravings. I love that my iphone has a speaker, and I can use it to choose exactly what shower music I want to listen to.

Sidenote: I don't wear perfume, but if I did, I think Paul would remember with a bit of prompting at the right moment (ie in duty free). Do you know what your partner wears?

What I've learned about consulting (so far)

I've been a business consultant for a software vendor for just over two years now. Turns out there are some things worth knowing..

Remember people's names. Not just those you deal with directly - that's a given. But also those you come across when you're workshopping or conducting training. It gives them a pleasant surprise to realise you paid enough attention to know who they are.

People will always want to fix the problem. They'll probably already have a solution in their head. Don't let this distract you from defining the problem properly first. Sometimes the thing that's causing the problem won't be fixed by their proposed solution.

Provide good advice, but understand that they might not take it. Be ready to walk away from what you think would be best. If you can't do this, don't be a consultant.

Have fun and work with good people. You don't have to be best friends, but why waste time and energy surrounding yourself with people who don't click?

I'm sure I'll think of more - any additions?

You had shoes? Luxury!!

On the weekend Christchurch was pretty devastated by a 7.1 earthquake and a massive number of aftershocks (sidenote: good graphic here of the aftershocks)

Interesting reading the responses to this blog post which questions whether uninsured people should get aid from the government or other funds. There's plenty of discussion from a range of positions about the potential response. They range from 'they should have had insurance, too bad for them' to 'help them out, it's too big an event to quibble about what they should have done'.

I appreciate the point that people can't just not get insurance and expect the government to bail them out when disaster strikes, but I couldn't countenance just letting people cope.

Here's the thing though - on the blog post there was a fairly strong trend towards 'help them get back on their feet, but don't pay for luxuries like a flat-screen tv'. Another comment suggested that 'broadband and Sky' were things that shouldn't be paid for via government assistance.

It just makes me wonder, what's a basic need, and what's a luxury? I agree that people could live without Sky - but broadband? If you've got kids who 'need' the internet for their homework, surely dialup is cruel and unusual punishment? And maybe they don't need Sky, but most houses in NZ have tvs for at least the free to air channels - is that a luxury?

We have insurance (although I'm thinking we should check if we have enough) but I wonder, if it came down to it, what we would *need*, as opposed to things that simply make life that bit simpler.

(Picture from stuff.co.nz - Kaiapoi after the Canterbury earthquake)

Elementary, my dear Watson*

There are a group of stories whose permutations I can't resist. New production of Romeo and Juliet? I'm there. Same for movie or book versions of Robin Hood, Sherlock Holmes and almost anything along the 'fairy tale' path.

So when I read about the new BBC tv show Sherlock, I was there with a detective's hat on. Although the new Sherlock doesn't seem to have a hat, and he has nicotine patches instead of a pipe.

Critics have been a bit dubious about the fun it has with some of the traditions, and seem to have picked a few holes in the stories, but overall, it's great. Benedict Cumberpatch is delightfully sociopathic as Holmes, and Martin Freeman is a great foil as John Watson.

Find it. Watch it.

(Also, hoping to head over to Melbourne to see the new production of Mary Poppins. Heard that it's great..)

* Pretty sure so far there has been no mention of the famous line.

I wish I could say I made this...

(spotted via Craft is the New Black)

Picking your seat on Air New Zealand

In the past 18 months or so I've been doing a fair bit of travelling for work. And I've learned some things about flying with Air NZ...

As long as you have a booking reference, and/or if you have a frequent flier account, you can log in to the website to check your booking and more importantly request your seats.

If you're flying on a Boeing 737-300 (mostly between AKL-WLG-CHC) then the closer to the front you can get the better. There's the obvious benefit of getting off faster when you land, but also, on the AirNZ layout at least, there's increasing amounts of legroom the closer you get to the front. After about row 13 (exit row) it's all the same. My personal preference is a window seat so I can watch the countryside go by, but that's definitely dependent on what you like.

If you're flying on a Bombardier Q300 which are used for flights between major town centres, I have a strong preference for row 1. It's an exit row, so you can't access your hand luggage as well, but I've found that it's often free when you go to request a seat, and again, you get to get off first.

However - if you're flying on a Aerospatiale ATR72 passengers get on at the back, so it's best to sit down that end :) For some reason these are my least favourite planes. I think it's because of the way the wings are almost level with the top of the body of the plane, which makes it look kinda... dumpy.

And then there's the good old 19 seater Beechcraft 1900D. Entry is from the front, but I don't recommend sitting in rows 1 or 2 - there are no windows until row 3. If you've been on these planes, you'll know that there's one seat on either side of the aisle, and at row five the floor goes up and down over a ramp. Which means that in row 6 there's hardly any room to put your hand luggage under the seat in front - and there's no overhead locker so it makes it pretty cramped. Personally I go for 3 or 4 if I have a short connection and need to get off fast, but otherwise I'd go for rows 8 or 9 because your view isn't obscured by the propellors.

My only other hint for now is that the belgian biscuits at the cafe in Auckland airport just opposite the security screening area for gates 28-33 are excellent, and really good when you've had a long day and have one more flight to go :)

Sentenced to.. read

This is a fascinating idea - people found guilty of crimes are sentenced to join a particular kind of reading group instead of being sent to jail. In Texas. And apparently it's working:

Groups are single sex and the books chosen resonate with some of the issues the offenders may be facing. A male group, for example, may read books with a theme of male identity. A judge, a probation officer and an academic join a session of 30 offenders to talk about issues as equals.

Of the 597 who have completed the course in Brazoria County, Texas, between 1997 and 2008, only 36 (6%) had their probations revoked and were sent to jail.

A year-long study of the first cohort that went through the programme, which was founded in Massachusetts in 1991, found that only 19% had reoffended compared with 42% in a control group. And those from the programme who did reoffend committed less serious crimes.

Wow.

This is so scary - The guy took his kids camping and took photos on a disposable camera. When they took the photos to be developed the photo people called in the police because there were naked kids.. Cue descent into hell.

I'd like to think it wouldn't happen here, but..

Caught up in the salmon run

I live quite close to the main train station in Wellington and often get caught up in the trail of the commuters on their way to the station in the evening.

The thing that bemuses me is the runners. Most people amble their way along the main roads, knowing they've got time to make their train. But there are some who run, because they either have an appointment at the other end, or they just must catch their routine train.

I guess that they know what time they have to leave, but get caught up by a minute or two when their computer does something weird at the end of the day. And then the lift takes a bit longer to arrive and stops at a few too many floors on the way to the ground. And those silly red lights. All conspiring to make the harrassed commuter late for their train. And so they run. They take risks with the lights. They barrel through the amblers with little care for personal space.

When they get there, I figure half the time their train is probably running late anyway.

Music on high repeat

Things what I'm listening to:

The Duke and the King - Nothing Gold Can Stay

This is a fairly quiet album, with pretty melodies and interesting stories to tell. So it pretty much ticks all the boxes for me. Lingering tunes.

The Cat Empire - Cinema

One of the guys at my workplace in Melbourne sent around an mp3 and noted that the band was playing in St Kilda and who wanted to go. The song (Hello hello) was bouncy and fun and good so I went along and have been hooked since. The enthusiasm of the first album turned into interesting musicality over time. The latest album is a bit more self-aligned that previous albums, in that a similar sound pervades through all the tracks. This is a bit of a change and so far so good.

The Magic Numbers - Those the Brokes

Just found this one a few days ago. Needs some more listening, but I like the ways the various vocalists play with each other and the tunes are pretty infectious. Random trivia: the band is composed of 2 sets of brother-and-sister.

Had a minor windfall in the shape of the work World Cup sweepstake, so decided to buy earrings. In one of the shops I wandered around, I had my headphones on. The woman in the store asked me what I was listening to. When I said Ani Difranco she said "ah, old school." I smiled and nodded and carried on.

Ani Difranco put out a studio album in 2008 (Red Letter Year) and has since released a couple of live albums. So I'm not sure her school is too old. That said, I'd also say that her older work is more well-known and better liked. I'm in the old-school-Ani camp :)